effects of complaining in marriage

I Had to Be Still I had to be still and pray for a moment today before writing this blog post. This post is based on an event that occured in my life today. Sometimes, as women, we need to just be still and watch what unfolds around us. My husband and I are volunteering for Veterans Community Response. My husband serves as a peer mentor, and I help in the kitchen feeding all the hungry veterans. (To learn more about what Veterans Community Response does, please visit vetcomres.org.) Now, that I have found clarity, I will share my lesson on the effects of complainingRead More →

language of love

According to Gary Chapman, author of the 5 Languages of Love, there are five ways people show love. What of this is your Language of Love? Gift Giving Physical Touch Quality Time Acts of Service Words of Devotion   As a couple, it is important that we recognize our partner’s Love Language. Here is a great video on Love Language by Iyanla Vanzant, a renowned Life Coach. Speaking Different Languages This brings me to my next point. Many masculine males function on Acts of Service as their language of love. My husband is one of those people, especially since he came home from Iraq. IRead More →

Submission…Cringe Worthy? Submission–the very word makes some people cringe in this day and age. To each couple, submission can look different. To some it extends into the bedroom, to put it mildly. Of course, I am not here to discuss matters of the bedroom. Those types of things should remain private. To others, it is Biblical or spiritual. The practice of submitting to a husband is, by many accounts, “outdated.” My view was shaped by my upbringing and personal choices. I watched what relationships flowed naturally and which ones did not. I saw the impact of dominant women upon men and family. I felt theRead More →

Rising from the Ashes Rising Who I am, where I stand now is not where I always was. I have risen from the ashes of a life that fell apart. I have risen from massive struggles of my husband coming home the way he did. Blaming God When he came home, I lost the Lord somewhere on this journey. Instead of leaning on Him, I grew further away. I can remember the countless fights. He was just so angry. It made me angry. I remember begging God to do something. Maybe that is why I lost Him. But the reality was: WE needed to doRead More →

Taking it personally

Quite often, I like to write articles that are packed with emotion, ones that are from the heart. No, not all of these articles are about house and home, but what we as women can do — even within ourselves — to improve happiness in the home. A happy home is absolutely not negotiable when it comes to good ol’ fashioned homemaking. So, let us jump right in. Taking it Personally Have you ever taken personally your husband’s attitude and made things much worse, only to later find out that he was never mad at you in the first place? Chances are, you have. HearRead More →

Letting the Man Lead,

Let Him Lead…it’s a Dance The following metaphorical example is a very powerful example to me about marriage. A maritial relationship is a dance. A pair steps in time, trusting the other to stick to their own moves and not step on the other’s feet. One takes the lead while the other follows. Dancing is an act of two people working together, both with different functions. However, they are equally important. Traditionally, the man will lead the dance. And, so should it be in life. I think what some people aren’t understanding is that letting your man lead actually empowers you as a woman. ThisRead More →