Often times, I find myself caught up in a whirlwind of responsibility.
Wife…caregiver…mother…chef…chauffer…the list goes on. I am sure many of my followers, even you, find yourself in the same boat from time to time.
Sometimes, I get so caught up in all my responsibilities that I don’t enjoy life to its fullest. I lose sight of the things I should cherish. There are times, I feel like I am drowning with no one to throw me a life line. In some marriages, the husband provides said lifeline. Yes, sometimes there are things my husband does to help. However, with his injuries, there is a limit to what he can do. No, I am not complaining. I signed up for this when I married a military man. I signed up for this when I said for better or worse. Somehow, this is all a part of God’s plan. God must somehow know I am strong enough to take all of this on.
Right now, from personal experience, enjoying life is something I want to touch on. Your cleaning, mending, cooking, is not going anywhere. If your responsibilities seem too vast, break it down. That is something I have begun doing. Look at what of your goals is most important to accomplish. What housework is annoying you most? Right now, I am sick and have limited energy. I needed to split it between my non-negotiable responsibilites (taking care of husband who is also sick, my sick kids, my dogs, making food, grocery shopping) and my personal goal of keeping a nice home. Yesterday that meant simply keeping the dishwasher ready to take more dishes so they don’t stack up and overwhelm me, vacuuming the floor, and bringing laundry down to the laundry room for when I felt up for it. (For help on laundry see my complete guide.)
You simply must be realistic with yourself and your goals. With this in mind, fit in the things you like to do, or things that would be good for your body, mind, or soul. Make sure you spend time with your kids. Nurturing them is not only good for you, it is good for them. It is more important than that load of laundry sitting in the corner or that sticky spot on your wall.
I am not Perfect
Am I perfect at this? Heck no. I work myself to the bone sometimes, working until I literally can’t stay awake, until I cannot move. In reality, that mindset is what runs me down. It is then, I have felt guilt for maybe not spending enough time with the kids who are growing so fast. It is then I feel guilt for not being a wife after the kids go to bed because I want to go to bed myself.
Cherish what you Have
Take the time to cherish what you have and be there for the people in your life. When you feel like you are drowning, take a moment to accentuate the positive. Take care of yourself.
I have a deep understanding because on December 26, 2007 my husband was on the brink of death, bleeding out in Mosul. Yet, even I lose sight of my blessings of having him here. Without him, my children wouldn’t be here. Sure, sometimes I miss the man I sent away to war, but recently I have discovered that longing for the impossible is wasteful of my time and does more to hurt me than help. You only live once. Take that life by the horns. Life is a gift.